G for Good Enough
For today’s post, which is linked to the Blogging from A to Z Challenge 2015, I want to focus on how love can make people feel good enough.
Whenever someone asks me “What do you like so much about romance novels?” (as a reader) and “Why do you write romance novels?”, I answer that there’s not only a love story to enjoy but also the character’s inner journey and development. I believe that falling in love and being truly loved changes us inevitably. What I have noticed often is that we learn to love ourselves by loving someone else. A very important aspect of this change is that we learn to accept ourselves and others. We realize that we are good enough.
I often use this in my romance novels where the heroine and the hero understand that they’re worth fighting for and that they deserve happiness. And that’s exactly the message I want to spread today: YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. Don’t let anyone think you’re not worth the trouble or you’re beneath them or not loveable. You don’t need to be slimmer or taller or fairer, you don’t have to be richer. You’re you, and that is good enough because it makes you unique. (Of course that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t strive to become better, but that’s a different story.)
I want to leave you with the lyrics of a song that has helped me through many dark days in the past.
Good enough by Darren Hayes (former singer of Savage Garden)
If I woke up late
Couldn’t get out of bed
If I bought you a café latte instead
If I lied when I said 32 inches was the size of my waist
And if I admit every once in a while
Even though I dig alternative style
Occasionally I can be caught dancin’ to Britney
And can I confess
That art house doesn’t turn me on
But I like every single thing that Spielberg’s done
Could I be good enough
Could I be good enough
If the going got worse and the worse got rough
The days became endless and harder than tough
I’d be good enough
Better than best would be simply to be good enough
If everything I give doesn’t seem like a lot
If it’s all that I got
Baby tell that could be good enough
Where I grew up
The rent was cheap
But we always had enough to eat
Didn’t have fancy clothes
I never really cared coz there were shoes on my toes
And motherly love
I knew it like the back of my hand
She always had a way to make me understand
I could be good enough
I could be good enough
If the going got worse and the worse got rough
The days became endless and harder than tough
I’d be good enough
Better than best would be simply to be good enough
If everything I give doesn’t seem like a lot
If it’s all that I got
Baby tell me that could be good enough
Coz I don’t know which way this road is gonna turn
But I know it’s gonna be fine
But there are some days no matter how much I’ve learned
That the road gets tough
And I don’t feel good enough
But if you’re giving me some of that loving
Could you pass some over
Let me cry on your shoulder and tell me baby
I could be good enough
If I lost my job
And my hair fell out
If I made no sense
And I scream and shout
Would you laugh at me?
Never take a word I say seriously
And if I’m out in the cold
Waiting in the back of the line
Too afraid to drop my name for fear of decline
Could you tell me I’m good enough? Could I be good enough?
If the going got worse and the worse got rough
The days became endless and harder than tough
I’d be good enough
Better than best would be simply to be good enough
If everything I give doesn’t seem like a lot
If it’s all that I’ve got
Baby tell me that could be good enough
I need to know that I could be good enough
Because everybody wants to feel good enough
Show me baby
Tell me
Come on a prove it baby
Give it to me
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